If you're on a shellprovider this can happen because the ports aren't distributed "fix" to their costumers. So someone else got a bot or so running on that port. You could perhaps telnet to that port and see if you get a response.
yes you can, just use .chanset #yourchan chanmode +tn-kim
that it won't insist anymore on -l
Think about the mi modes too, depending on if you got any protection script like sentinel loaded or so it's a bad idea to have one of your bot's enforce -mi since that's the main mechansim of the whole script
Hmm i can't understand why you are making so much noise here. First of all the owner thing has to do with how many posts that person has already done.
And about the advertising I just can say that you were the one you advertised in the "The best shell provider" post here...