ok i found out that everything is behind the nat firewall and the ip is in the range that it says in the config file so i should use that as the nat ip in the config file and do not use set my-ip or set my-hostname correct?
i just wanted to stop back in to say it's all working and to thank everyone for helping me out all 4 bots are linked and the netbot stuff is working on all 4 of them again